I've been thinking about the public discourse of the last couple of weeks regarding civility and I'm wondering what it is that we really want. I mean, of course we should all be kind and considerate of one another and our differences of opinion regarding a variety of subjects. I think of what we call "The Golden Rule". Our Lord Jesus Christ said, "Therefore all things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them: for this is the law and the prophets." (Matthew 7:12) The Christian is taught, "And whatsoever ye do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God and the Father by him." (Col.3:17) So, for the Christian, civility should not even be question, although even we can, at times, become uncivil.
A well known radio talk show host recently caused a stir by using words that were less than diplomatic when describing the activity of a woman who was being used by the present administration to appeal for forced contraceptive costs to be paid by her employer, a religious organization. Of course there was an immediate reaction, by the press, to the words this commentator used, which caused a public uproar. And it deflected the point from being about forcing religious institutions from having to go against their religious convictions, to being about contraception.Now I don't believe this commentator is a Christian other than nominally, so his words were harsh. But they were also true!
What I have realized is that Americans really don't like truth. It makes them uncomfortable. So when popular television shows promote promiscuity they would not like to be titled what they are really about. I don't think "Sin in the City", replaced by "Whores in the City" would be a popular name, but according to traditional usage of the word it would be correct. I have relatives that, according to proper traditional usage, could rightly be called "whores" or "sluts". It wouldn't be kind, but it would be honest to do so. A television show like "Two and A Half Men" has a constant flow of sluts and whores, and, when Charlie Sheen starred in the program, featured a bona-fide fornicator! Any of these programs that have a character who is sleeping with one guy after another is featuring a slut. It is sluttish behavior!
Our problem is that we have tried to become so civil that our morals have dropped dramatically! We call homosexuals "gay", when, for the most part, they are far from being gay. We call adultery having an affair. The word "affair" can have lots of different meanings. Years ago one could say, "I just got home from having a gay affair!", and it would only mean he or she had attended a happy or fun event. Now the words "gay" and "affair" carry an evil connotation to them which simply shouldn't be! Why do we constantly want to water down these expressions to blunt their meaning, or change them to have different meanings? It's because our morality has lowered to such a degree. Admittedly, to call a homosexual a "queer" like we did when I was young, seems to be a little sharp, but if you look the word up in the dictionary, one of the definitions is, "differing from the usual or ordinary" and, frankly, I think it fits quite well, though because I'm "civil" I don't use it in public discussions.
That brings me to the point of this post which is, "What is it we want, civility or mendacity? Frankly I like to know where people stand on issues, and strong, fervent language does not bother me. I'm not afraid to call the kettle black, and neither should anyone else!
When a soldier goes to battle it is a great relief to know who the enemy is. In days gone by they could be identified by their flag or by their uniforms or any number of ways but in today's world it is difficult because they don't wear common uniforms or carry flags. If they did it would be a great help! So, I like it when the democrats identify their positions. I don't like dishonesty and I don't want a man to identify himself as a friend when he is, in fact, an enemy!
It's not the use of name calling that bothers me so much if what is being said is true and not just a knee-jerk reaction, and, if there were not a double standard in society's reaction. The word "mendacity" means dishonesty or falsehood. There are certain individuals like late night comedians, political commentators on the left, and even Representatives and Senators who have used harsh and untruthful language regarding, not only their opponents, but private citizens as well. Even the president has used mendacity, sophistry, and just plain meanness to attack his opponents, and again, private citizens as well. So it is nothing short of blatant hypocrisy for them to cry out for civility!
So which is it we want? I think truth is superior to civility. You can be civil by saying for instance, "Our president is doing the best he can, and though he's made a few honest mistakes, his intentions are honorable." Now that would definitely be a civil statement but would it be an honest one? No, as I stated in the previous paragraph, at least for me, that would not be honest so I would be guilty of mendacity to make such a statement! I like to know who is my friend and who may be an opponent and I want that opponent to say what he or she thinks, not what they think may be generous or mendacious.
In our "Politically Correct" society we have settled for mendacity but that's really all one can expect for a society whose morals are at an all time low. Some societies were destroyed by the command of the Lord for having such low morals. Some societies were slowly eaten away from within by this cancerous moral decline. Do we want to be kind? Yes! Do we want to be fair? Yes! Do we want to be considerate? Yes! But we want to be honest in the process and we don't want to be tactfully deceitful. So it would be good if we'd grow a little thicker skin, if we'd learn to "take it as well as dish it out", and if everyone would be decidedly honest as well as kind. But above all I appreciate transparency, that way I probably won't get stabbed in the back!
